Anger Management and Counselling in West Point Grey, BC.

Anger often stems from feeling so many emotions all at once. You lose a sense of control. You go from 0 to 100 in a blink of an eye. By getting angry you’re attempting to regain control that’s presumed lost. But instead, you’re full of guilt and shame. Feeling angry and reacting in anger, is simply exhausting. I’ll help you learn how to regain control, in a healthy way.

Anger is a healthy and normal emotion. It is only when it is acted out in inappropriate ways that it becomes unhealthy and socially "unacceptable". The key to getting a handle on anger is to learn mindful awareness of what you are actually experiencing in the moment - particularly what you are experiencing physically in your body. That moment to moment awareness shows you the truth of your experience and slows your reaction time, giving you a chance to take a breath, evaluate, and assess how you might want to RESPOND, rather than simply REACT, in a given situation. It is equally important to discover underlying anxiety or depression that might be contributing to unwanted anger.

I use cognitive therapy to help people overcome their anger issues. Thoughts create feelings which create behavior. If a person feels angry while driving in the car and cannot control his temper vis a vis the driver he is angry at, identifying the irrational thought at the root of it is often helpful. Usually I find the clients having such thoughts as, "He cut me off on purpose" or "Who does he think he is driving like that?" These types of thoughts can and do create anger. But if the client changes his thoughts for more rational ones such as, "Wow he must really be in a rush to be driving that way, perhaps there is an emergency", the client finds that he is less angry and less reactive!

If you find yourself snapping at loved ones and feeling awful afterward, I help you step back, understand what’s underneath your reactions, and respond with greater clarity and control. When you keep saying, “I should be able to handle this,” but can’t, I help you stop hiding and start healing. And if your relationships feel like walking on eggshells, I guide you toward deeper trust, safer communication, and genuine connection. Real change begins here.

When it comes to anger management, we know that there are underlying reasons that trigger our clients to feel frustrated. We work from different modalities that fit best with the client to help them find new ways of dealing with how they feel. We teach them new ways of coping and dealing with everyday stressors. We work collaboratively with the client so that they can feel in control of their emotions again.

Anger management counselling in Richmond and Ladner. I teach anger management techniques to clients who are troubled by anger in their lives. Once skills are learned, they can be applied to a variety of life situations. The effects of anger management skills will improve relationships, employment and parenting. The use of a cognitive behavioral approach and a family systems approach will help you understand the triggers to anger and give you tools to handle stressful situations better.

I focus on what the underlying cause of your anger is. I can help you identify the emotions that you may not have expressed. You can choose how to express your anger and learn how to more effectively communicate your feelings. Understanding what your triggers are helps you manage the anger so that you can feel more in control and more confident about yourself.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” Ambrose Bierce Anger is often an intense emotional response that can negatively affect people’s lives. Many people struggle to manage and express their anger effectively due to often intense and overwhelming feelings. Families, work, friendships and one’s personal well-being can be destroyed unintentionally along the way. Although we cannot control anger provoking situations, we can learn step by step techniques for successfully and efficiently managing them. Through counselling we will work to access the issues provoking anger and outbursts, and develop tools to identify and effectively manage emotional triggers. When needed, we will also work with families and...(view profile to read more)

Anger can be all-consuming, it affects our quality of life, and it can damage relationships we care about. When it comes to anger management, I would be most likely to offer support through Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and/or Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. These two related therapeutic approaches use different strategies, from challenging your thinking in order to help you feel better to learning more effective ways of interacting with others. I believe in adjusting my approach in order to meet each client where they are at, because no two people struggling with anger management are the same. I will listen carefully to your story and make a treatment plan accordingly.

Anger is a normal healthy human emotion. When people allow it to get out of control it can turn destructive, it can lead to problems at work, personal relationships, and the overall quality of life. I like to think of anger using the metaphore of a hammer. You can do a lot of things with a hammer. You can build things and you can tear things apart. The hammer is just a tool just like anger can be a tool. Anger isn't the problem, it's what you do with it. I help people learn the skills they need to use their anger and the underlying hurt and feelings of injustice to make positive choices that lead to positive relationships and experiences.

It sucks to be angry and loose control of our emotions. Anger can have a devastating impact on the people we love the most. I will support you in addressing the emotions, trauma and pain underneath anger and learn to identify your triggers and patterns. I will teach you tools to address your stress and help you learn to better deal with your emotions. Learning to communicate our needs in a way that will be received is also a part of how I address anger issues.

If you're finding it difficult to control your anger I can help you by getting to the root of the issue. Underneath anger lies a whole host of emotions that you may not be consciously aware of. In therapy I'll help you dig underneath the surface, identify those emotions and meet the corresponding needs they're associated with. I'll also give you practical tools to calm yourself down when you get triggered and communicate with others in an assertive way that respects both your rights and theirs. I'd be honoured to travel with you on your journey.

Real Solutions to Real Challenges. Common Sense Techniques. Anger can be helpful or it can be destructive. Anger unchecked and not understood can consume a persons attention and energy and keep them stuck. Anger can be hepful in that it is telling us that something is wrong. We may feel unfairly treated, overpowered, and hurt. As a result individuals may become defensive, withdrwan/silent, or even aggresive if they sense injustice and then go the attack. Quite often if the intensity of the anger response seems out of proportion to the current incident then this is most likely due to a cumulative history that comes rushing in to the present and hence the over reaction.