Anger Management and Counselling in Port Moody, BC.

Anger is a useful emotion. The feeling of anger makes sense in the perspective of the one who is angry. Anger is an appropriate response to injustice or a reaction to being misjudged. Once we are able to determine the interpretation the client has made of the anger-inducing experience, we determine a concrete response to the triggering experience. Anger does not have to be so loud when its trigger is understood from the client's perspective and the energy redirected to a more authentic response.

Do you feel like anger is taking over your life and destroying you and your relationships? Sadly our culture does not do a very good job of teaching us how to express and manage our emotions in a healthy way. We often mis-identify our emotions, and label all negative emotion as "anger". Let me help you discover what emotions you are really dealing with and offer instruction on how to manage them in a more positive and effective way.

Anger management equips individuals with the tools and insights necessary to understand and regulate their anger effectively. A range of techniques are utilized, including cognitive restructuring, relaxation exercises, and assertiveness training, to help clients identify triggers, manage physiological responses, and express emotions constructively. By fostering self-awareness, empathy, and problem-solving skills, counseling empowers individuals to break destructive patterns of behavior, cultivate healthier relationships, and navigate conflicts with greater resilience and composure.

Do you find yourself yelling at your partner, losing your temper at your children, storming out of the office in a fury of frustration and anger? Anger is a normal, healthy emotion that sometimes gets away on a person. Feeling disappointed in yourself when you 'lose your cool' is information that there may be better ways to handle a situation. Together we will work to help you develop the skills to communicate effectively, maintain your authenticity and foster strong, positive relationships.

Anger is a complex issue. Some ancient philosophers thought it could be useful at the right times, others thought it was only useful in the way alcohol was - inebriating us from fear. However, in the highest extent of anger it is generally acknowledged that it can take over, so we do cruel things that we regret later. If anger is useful, it is only in a lesser form that we might call frustration. My hope is that we can learn to understand the underlying parts of the frustration, so it can be a reliable tool that doesn't lead to uncontrollable anger.

One of the greatest detriments of anger is that it makes us feel helpless and out of control. Anger management techniques aren't meant to eliminate your anger. Anger management techniques put you in charge of the situation and teach you how to make your anger work for you. Resolve conflict creatively, calm yourself before you hit the red zone, recognize the early warning signs of anger…so that you’ll stay in control of your emotions, offer and respond to criticism with confidence and react to a crisis calmly and confidently...so that you will be powerful instead of overpowering.

Anger is often something we feel when we are afraid or hurt. I work with clients to understand their anger; how it feels, how it affects them, and what their triggers may be. By first understanding, our emotions can help us work towards having more control over them. After that, we can work on coping mechanisms and strategies to help us find more peace, calm and overall wellness in our lives.

Anger often stems from feeling so many emotions all at once. You lose a sense of control. You go from 0 to 100 in a blink of an eye. By getting angry you’re attempting to regain control that’s presumed lost. But instead, you’re full of guilt and shame. Feeling angry and reacting in anger, is simply exhausting. I’ll help you learn how to regain control, in a healthy way.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

In my approach to Counselling for Anger and Anger Management, I help clients gain insight into the root causes of their anger and equipping them with effective strategies to manage it constructively. I believe that anger is a natural emotion, but it becomes problematic when it is expressed in harmful ways. Through our therapeutic work, clients will learn to identify triggers, understand the underlying emotions driving their anger, and acquire practical techniques for healthy expression and control. By fostering self-awareness and providing tools for emotional regulation, clients can expect to experience improved relationships, reduced conflict, and an overall enhanced quality of life.

Many people struggle with anger management. Anger management counselling can help you identify where these feelings are coming from and identify when they are about to happen in order for you to learn to control these strong feelings. Counselling is a great way to tackle these struggles as the therapy is tailored to you and your specific issues while in a confidential, supportive and non-judgemental environment.

While anger is a natural human response to frustration or upset it needs to be managed appropriately. In counselling, I help clients of all ages identify and understand their anger "triggers." We then process together appropriate responses to such triggers and practice such reactions. Over time, the goal is for clients to use the tools and strategies learned in counselling and apply them in their everyday lives at home with family, at school with peers and in the work place with colleagues. I look forward to working with you to make positive life changes.

I use cognitive therapy to help people overcome their anger issues. Thoughts create feelings which create behavior. If a person feels angry while driving in the car and cannot control his temper vis a vis the driver he is angry at, identifying the irrational thought at the root of it is often helpful. Usually I find the clients having such thoughts as, "He cut me off on purpose" or "Who does he think he is driving like that?" These types of thoughts can and do create anger. But if the client changes his thoughts for more rational ones such as, "Wow he must really be in a rush to be driving that way, perhaps there is an emergency", the client finds that he is less angry and less reactive!

There are many approaches to anger management but many of these don't work when you're angry! Being logical about the feeling or trying not to express the feeling rarely works! There are legitimate reasons for anger and the underlying cause must be understood if we are going to manage this complicated emotion. It may be coming up to protect us or to mask something even more difficult. You may notice that anger comes up in certain contexts and perhaps with certain people. If you are willing to do some hard work and face some difficult truths, understanding your anger can turn your life around. When we learn from anger you may be amazed how much better your life can work and feel.

Anger is a necessary emotion that causes difficulties when the individual copes with anger in an inappropriate fashion. Dr. Rochefort believes that the key to successful anger management is to learn skills to manage distorted thinking and negative behaviours. To accomplish this, one must develop effective problem solving, communication, and distress tolerance skills.

Frustration, irritation, and anger are normal human responses. We often feel angry when our goals are thwarted or when we perceive others are taking advantage of us. Anger is a problem when it is experienced to frequently, too intensely. You will be able to recognize your anger and understand how thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions are precipitating or perpetuating the anger response. You will learn coping strategies to manage your anger response appropriately.

Anger can be a reaction to a range of experiences, from past traumas to present-day stressors, and EMDR can help to desensitize and reprocess these experiences, reducing the intensity of the emotional response. Through the use of bilateral stimulation, such as eye movements or tapping, EMDR can help to process the distressing memories and emotions, leading to increased emotional regulation and a greater sense of control over one's emotional response. By addressing the underlying emotional triggers, EMDR can help to alleviate symptoms of anger and promote more adaptive coping strategies.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Personally, I struggle with the term "anger management". Anger is an important emotion that needs to be viewed through a lens of acceptance not barred to a back room. Until a person understands the myriad of emotions that lie under the surface of 'anger', they are often controlled by these emotions, One of the purposes of anger is to alert the emotional person to the fact that something is wrong (much like pain signals the body when something is wrong). People do need to "control" their behaviour - especially when feelings are strong. i believe that people can learn to manage their life better once they understand what is affecting them AND what they want to accomplish by their action.

Anger can be misunderstood and therefore experienced as one of the scariest emotions to work with or experience. In our work together we will learn what is underneath your anger, and the function of these emotions in order to support you in learning to unlock more supportive ways of experiencing your emotions and heal from past hurts and therefore heal your relationships.

When anger gets the best of us, we can say and/or do things that we later wish we could change or take back. Anger is an instinctive universal emotion, one in which we all have, but not all expressions of anger have to be hurt. In fact, anger works as a great informant and can motivate us to take action to improve our own lives and the lives of people that we care about.

Want to control and manage your anger? Want to gain a deeper understanding of the root causes of your anger? Want to channel your anger to more constructive outlets? Many therapists often simply help their clients to control their anger such as timeout, breathing, etc. I use EMDR therapy to help you calm your brain and your nervous system so that your fight response does not get activated automatically. You become a calmer and wiser person who thinks with clarity. I use hypnotherapy to help you gain a deeper understanding of the root causes of your anger. It can also reset your mind and body. Angry no more! Let your calm and beautiful YOU shine! Call 778-548-7345!

Is anger negatively effecting your relationships? Does it feel like you are angry all the time and nothing seems to work? Anger Management can help you learn positive techniques to deal with your anger effectively. Charlene offers Anger Management Workshops as well as Individualized Anger Counselling. Call today for more information on how Charlene can help you get your Anger under control.

As a retired Marine Corps Officer, I have had a lot of experience with anger management, both personally and with my clients. Once again, I feel the key to anger management is identifying the root cause of anger. Oftentimes we improperly project our internal anger onto someone who does not deserve it. My clients report that after working with me, they no longer project anger onto the innocent people in their lives.

Anger has costs psychologically, physiologically and in personal relationships. There are times when no amount of awareness or will, can calm ones Central Nervous System (CNS). When you find yourself reactive to a trigger, and the limbic system of your brain is fired up making anger seem to come out of nowhere, it is difficult to use reason. By utilizing tools of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Neurofeedback(NFB) or EMDR, I can assist your body and brain to learn to calm the CNS, allowing you to think first, act second.