Anger Management and Counselling in Kamloops, BC.

Anger is a normal and healthy emotion that needs to occur in a controlled manner. Yes, we all get mad but it is the action and words that need special attention. When it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems. These problems occur at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. I will help you create strategies and goals to mange your anger.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” Ambrose Bierce Anger is often an intense emotional response that can negatively affect people’s lives. Many people struggle to manage and express their anger effectively due to often intense and overwhelming feelings. Families, work, friendships and one’s personal well-being can be destroyed unintentionally along the way. Although we cannot control anger provoking situations, we can learn step by step techniques for successfully and efficiently managing them. Through counselling we will work to access the issues provoking anger and outbursts, and develop tools to identify and effectively manage emotional triggers. When needed, we will also work with families and...(view profile to read more)

Our anger can be a sentry, a protector and a wise indicator that our boundaries have been transgressed or that something vitally important to us is threatened. It can also be a raging tyrant, a short fuse, a simmering internalisation that off-gases through passive aggression, or a childish tantrum. Becoming intimate with our anger is synonymous with becoming intimidate with our power. In anger therapy, we will work to understand the unique way your anger process happens through somatic awareness, mindfulness and emotional intimacy. We will look at your history with anger, your family lineage, and you will learn tools to channel this fire in ways that support rather than hinder your life.

Anger often stems from feeling so many emotions all at once. You lose a sense of control. You go from 0 to 100 in a blink of an eye. By getting angry you’re attempting to regain control that’s presumed lost. But instead, you’re full of guilt and shame. Feeling angry and reacting in anger, is simply exhausting. I’ll help you learn how to regain control, in a healthy way.

Anger and violence are wildly misunderstood issues. I believe that it is important to explore the context in which the anger or violence occurs. For example, does it happen at home, or at work, or in public? Who is impacted by the anger or violence? How do the individuals who are impacted resist and respond to the anger/violence? Through counselling we will explore the context of the interactions. Once we understand the context (who is doing what to who?) I will respectfully invite responsibility taking and strategies for more helpful communication and responses.

My approach is to use a step-by-step process that follows an evidence based approach: goal setting; self awareness; cognitive reframing; behavioural modification; review of progress. Fundamental to the work is a good therapeutic relationship. That is, we have the collaboration and trust to combine your knowledge of yourself and your situation and my skills and knowledge of the clinical issues to make change happen.

Tammie has had great experience and results working with both male and female learn how to channel their anger or harmful, hurtful emotions into a healthy more satisfying outcome. Court mandated clients, Doctor's referrals or personal referrals are accepted. Tammie has a more hands on approach and uses Cognitive Behavioural, Reality Theory and Solution Focused therapies with clients. Happy individuals who learn emotional managemnt techniques have healthier and happier relationships with partners, spouses, friends, children, family and workplace.

Feeling like you always go from 0 to 100 in seconds? Do people say you overreact to small things, or do you feel constantly on-edge? Maybe your anger is hurting the people you care about. If any of this sounds familiar, counselling can help. Together, we can develop better emotional control, improve your relationships, and reduce your stress. You'll gain insights into your triggers and learn how to manage them. Imagine feeling calm and connected with the people you love. You deserve this peace. Let's take the first step together. Book your free 15-minute consultation now, and start your journey to a more peaceful life today.

At Inner Tides Counselling, our primary modality is EMDR, in which past experiences are reprocessed to help us believe something positive about ourselves or the world. Many people that seek help with managing anger have experienced something that made them feel unsafe, out of control, or mistreated in the past, and use their anger as a way to protect themselves. EMDR can help to release the anger and gain control and protection in healthier ways. Inner Tides Counselling utilizes CBT and DBT to bring awareness to thoughts, feelings, and behaviours while building positive coping skills to help manage challenging emotions.

I use solution focused techniques to help with the process of managing anger. I have tangible excercises that allow for self refection regarding the impact of anger in ones life and the impact anger can have in relation to others. I use reality based situations (including both work and home life) to work through realistic situations, which helps to promote the use of learned techniques in accurate situations. I have worked with all different populations in regards to managing anger and can be flexible in terms of adjusting to individual goals and desired outcomes.

Anger is an emotion that can dominate how we automatically react to situations and frustrations when it feels we are not in control. Sometimes anger is overwhelming for the person feeling the anger and for the others around them and can negatively impact relationships and life goals. I explore with clients the root of the anger and then collaboratively develop strategies and alternative intentional approaches to improve effective emotional processing.

When anger gets the best of us, we can say and/or do things that we later wish we could change or take back. Anger is an instinctive universal emotion, one in which we all have, but not all expressions of anger have to be hurt. In fact, anger works as a great informant and can motivate us to take action to improve our own lives and the lives of people that we care about.

Ferne uses cognitive therapy to help individuals to learn how to lessen their anger and to learn new skills to express themselves their emotions in a healthy way. She also help individuals to learn how to communicate more positively. Ferne also helps individuals use mindful practices to help with self regulation and achieve success. Ferne believes under anger there is trauma. Ferne provides an environment where the client examine trauma triggers that contribute to their anger. Ferne's mental background also helps her to determine any underlying factors such depression and untreated ADHD that may contribute to anger issues

The cost of Anger is enormous! It affects not only everyone around you, but also affects your own health. If you are looking for a counsellor to help you with anger management, you probably already know this. If you have grown tired of the emotional, physical and financial toll that anger takes, you have come to the right person. I can help you learn the skills that you need to understand your anger and to regulate it so that you can meet your needs more effectively. You will also learn what it takes to protect and rebuild relationships that have been damaged through venting your anger. If you are ready to take responsibility for making changes for the better in your life, contact me.