Anger Management and Counselling in Hope, BC.

Becoming self reflective and mindful of our behavior toward others is a goal worth realizing. Carey can help you to calm your emotions and express your thoughts that are maintaining anger. Through respectful and caring dialogue, you will notice changes of habitual thoughts and impulsive actions. You can hope to develop an understanding of self that is mindful and emotionally stable. Providing a trusting relationship for honesty in conversation, counselling for anger management can be an avenue for greater well-being in all areas of your life.

Anger can often feel so overwhelming that it causes you to do things you later regret. Not knowing what came over you, there are many unanswered questions: why do I keep doing this? why can't I stop myself? Sometimes, alcohol, substances, or other addictive behaviours lead to this anger, making it more difficult to control. As an addiction counsellor, I help clients overcome addictions leading to anger issues so they can regain a sense of control, rebuild relationships, and gain clarity about how to move forward. If you are unsure where to start, send me a message and I can help. If I'm not the right fit, I can connect you to the right support so you can start gaining back control, today.

Anger is a healthy emotion and can be expressed as such if expressed appropriately. Anger can be internalized and go unexpressed and come out other ways or it can be externalized and become problematic or therapeutic. There is a balance, a more appropriate way to express anger. A healthier expression of anger can both define a healthier balanced self and improve your relationships.

Anger is a complicated emotion that can be experienced as a primary emotion to an event or a secondary emotion in response to another unexpressed emotion. I work with my clients in unpacking the basis for their anger, identifying triggers to anger, finding healthy ways to express it, and processing any trauma or emotions hidden or unexpressed. I counsel my clients to find their internal strength and resources to process their anger and learn from it. I also counsel my clients to find resolution if they experience feelings of being stuck and hopelessness, helping them to find peace and joy

Anger often stems from feeling so many emotions all at once. You lose a sense of control. You go from 0 to 100 in a blink of an eye. By getting angry you’re attempting to regain control that’s presumed lost. But instead, you’re full of guilt and shame. Feeling angry and reacting in anger, is simply exhausting. I’ll help you learn how to regain control, in a healthy way.

My approach is to use a step-by-step process that follows an evidence based approach: goal setting; self awareness; cognitive reframing; behavioural modification; review of progress. Fundamental to the work is a good therapeutic relationship. That is, we have the collaboration and trust to combine your knowledge of yourself and your situation and my skills and knowledge of the clinical issues to make change happen.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Individuals struggling to manage anger can be exhausting and overwhelming; often there is a significant negative effect on others in their life. We will work to uncover where the intense anger is originating from and heal. We will also wok to develop new skills and tools to manage emotional situations in a more positive an effective way. It is also important to work to heal the damage to loved ones whom have been affected.

Uncontrolled anger destroys lives. You may say “I can’t help myself, or anger isn’t something you can control.” Yes you can’t always control the situation when you are angry or how it makes you feel, but you can control how you express your anger. Anger can be expressed without being verbally, physically or emotionally abusive. Even if you are being pushed to it, you always have a choice about how to respond; it is wise to seek a professional help to find best choices. First we explore the reasons behind your anger; because if you don’t know why you are getting angry, it is difficult to control it. I provide you skills you can learn in a safe environment and practice in your daily life...