Anger Management and Counselling in Cranbrook, BC.

I help people to acknowledge and manage all of their emotions. By learning to broaden and recognize their emotional awareness, they are able to more effectively integrate their emotions into their choices. Emotional awareness is an important part of an overall wisdom approach to life. Both men and women benefit from become more familiar and even becoming "friends" with their feelings. It is better to have emotions rather than them having you.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

It sucks to be angry and loose control of our emotions. Anger can have a devastating impact on the people we love the most. I will support you in addressing the emotions, trauma and pain underneath anger and learn to identify your triggers and patterns. I will teach you tools to address your stress and help you learn to better deal with your emotions. Learning to communicate our needs in a way that will be received is also a part of how I address anger issues.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” Ambrose Bierce Anger is often an intense emotional response that can negatively affect people’s lives. Many people struggle to manage and express their anger effectively due to often intense and overwhelming feelings. Families, work, friendships and one’s personal well-being can be destroyed unintentionally along the way. Although we cannot control anger provoking situations, we can learn step by step techniques for successfully and efficiently managing them. Through counselling we will work to access the issues provoking anger and outbursts, and develop tools to identify and effectively manage emotional triggers. When needed, we will also work with families and...(view profile to read more)

Anger management offers crucial tools for individuals struggling to effectively manage and express their anger. Through structured guidance and support, participants learn to recognize triggers, understand the underlying emotions driving their anger, and acquire techniques for healthier emotional regulation. Counselling will often combine cognitive restructuring, communication skills development, and relaxation techniques to help individuals respond to provocation in constructive ways. By participating in anger management, individuals can transform their relationship with anger, reduce negative consequences of uncontrolled rage, and develop a calmer, more balanced approach to handling

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger can be a reaction to a range of experiences, from past traumas to present-day stressors, and EMDR can help to desensitize and reprocess these experiences, reducing the intensity of the emotional response. Through the use of bilateral stimulation, such as eye movements or tapping, EMDR can help to process the distressing memories and emotions, leading to increased emotional regulation and a greater sense of control over one's emotional response. By addressing the underlying emotional triggers, EMDR can help to alleviate symptoms of anger and promote more adaptive coping strategies.

Anger is a normal, healthy emotion we feel when something unfair or unjust has occurred. Anger can also distract from deeper, more painful emotions like sadness, guilt or abandonment. Anger can also hurt others when it becomes out of control and is followed by feelings of guilt or shame. You may not believe you have the right to be angry so looking for root causes of the anger is key. Learn to communicate more effectively with others to avoid the buildup of frustrations or resentments which result in angry outbursts. Learn warning signals and practical skills to regulate emotions and respond more skillfully, rather than be reactive. Change is possible. Talking helps.