Anger Management and Counselling in Anmore, BC.

Does your anger feel explosive or unmanageable? Are you troubled or overwhelmed by another negative emotion like guilt, shame, fear, or jealousy? Generally speaking, our emotions are healthy and normal, but the way we react to them can cause real problems our lives and relationships. I can share skills to help you understand your emotions, what’s causing them, and how to react to them in a helpful way. When we can work with our emotions, rather than fight against them, we are healthier and happier.

Anger can take control of your life, and your reactions to anger can jeopardise your personal and professional life. I work with males and females clients that are mandated by the court to take Anger Management Therapy, The treatment plan allows you to identify the triggers, recognise what behavioural patterns needs altering and how to transform unhealthy anger and healthy anger.

Anger mangement is primarily based on Cogntitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), though is integrated with other approches considering the needs, age and situation of the individual. Art and Play therapy may be used with children, (as well as Art Therapy for adults) in the understanding, expression and processing of anger in intent to reduce the experience of anger and its expression. Positive coping and management are promoted and families (parents+kids) in conflict can expect to explore ideas / models of conflict reduction. In this way, parents of kids should expect to be involved in learnining how to deal with anger and how to assit their children in learning improved ways of anger management

Anger is a normal emotion that is necessary to our survival. However, if anger is controlling you, rather than you controlling it, your anger is likely impacting your relationships and functioning in important parts of your life. Anger management counselling can help you develop techniques for changing the way you think and behave in response to events that trigger you to respond inappropriately. Self-soothing strategies, cognitive-behavioural therapy, and family systems therapy are some interventions that I use to help people manage anger more effectively.

Anger is a strong emotion and when not regulated in a healthy manner, it can impact us in different ways. It can impact the most important relationships in our lives, our work and even how we feel about ourselves. When working with anger, I want my clients to first listen to what anger is trying to tell them. Anger, like any other emotion, has a message for us. It might be trying to tell us something about the pains we have never dealt with, the boundaries in our lives that are being crossed, and the changes that we desire in our lives. Once we learn to your anger and hear it out, we will work on tools to regulate it better and express it constructively without suppressing it.

Anger in relationships, or felt anger or irritation in your own internal experience can be debilitating and overwhelming. I use IFS and NARM to help clients identify the source of their anger and manage their reactions. Clients will learn to understand their anger and experience a lowered felt sense of anger - not just white knuckling through it.

Anger is a surface level emotion. There is nothing wrong with anger as it serves a useful purpose alerting us to how passionately we feel about a given circumstance. It is when we lose control of ourselves and react instead of creating a purposeful action to that event. Looking to our deeper beliefs, emotions, and values is key to understanding our anger and being able to use it in a constructive way. Your emotions are real and legitimate; don’t let anyone take them away from you. However, you have the responsibility to communicate them constructively and use them in ways that enrich your life. By learning how to use your anger as an alarm that tells you to communicate your thoughts, values ....

Where anger shows up in my work is often with children and youth who are expediting emotional outbursts. These emotional outbursts often present as anger and are happening as the children and youth are unable to process and articulate how they are feeling. During our sessions together I work with the children and youth to understand their primary emotion as anger is a secondary emotion. We work together to process how there are feeling and be able to articulate their feelings and use different coping techniques instead of aversive outbursts.

I have successfully helped many clients over the years with anger management. The reality is we all have anger that sometimes becomes just too much to contain! This obviously could quickly cause us serious ramifications! If you ever get to that point, anger management can be incredibly helpful in many ways. We all have anger but sometimes it increases in intensity which can result in very serious ramifications! Always remember it is very treatable.

Anger can be a powerful and sometimes overwhelming emotion, but with the right tools, it can be transformed into a source of insight and positive change. In anger management counseling, clients learn to identify triggers, understand the root causes of their anger, and develop healthy ways to express and manage it. My approach focuses on building emotional awareness, enhancing communication skills, and fostering self-control, enabling clients to navigate challenges more calmly and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

My approach is to use a step-by-step process that follows an evidence based approach: goal setting; self awareness; cognitive reframing; behavioural modification; review of progress. Fundamental to the work is a good therapeutic relationship. That is, we have the collaboration and trust to combine your knowledge of yourself and your situation and my skills and knowledge of the clinical issues to make change happen.

So what is making me or him so angry ? Thats a question that brings alot of people to seek out a counsellor for some understanding and help. Anger is like an umberalla ..there is allways something undeneath it. In counselling we work hard to figure out what that is. When we understand this we are able to better learn some new and less destructive ways to express our feelings. Managing anger is managing emotions..the great benifit to the client who makes this transition is that they really begin to get their real needs met..and people begin to enjoy being around them a whole lot more.

Anger is a complex issue. Some ancient philosophers thought it could be useful at the right times, others thought it was only useful in the way alcohol was - inebriating us from fear. However, in the highest extent of anger it is generally acknowledged that it can take over, so we do cruel things that we regret later. If anger is useful, it is only in a lesser form that we might call frustration. My hope is that we can learn to understand the underlying parts of the frustration, so it can be a reliable tool that doesn't lead to uncontrollable anger.

Collaboratively, we will explore the underlying causes of anger and identify triggers within relationships (with self and other). An emphasis on relational strategies can promote effective expression and constructive conflict resolution. We will work on developing emotional intelligence, helping you recognize and understand what is beneath the surface of your anger. It can be useful to explore past experiences that might be contributing to present challenges. Treatment focusses on building healthy connections and increasing self-awareness.

I offer counselling for anger management to help clients manage difficult situations. The treatment process is rooted in CBT with a focus on identifying triggers and recognizing body sensations that indicate emotional dysregulation. Developing coping skills and strategies to manage anger and associated emotions can improve conflict resolution, communication, and problem solving abilities while showing individuals how to express emotions such as anger in a healthy way.

Anger is a healthy emotion. It is an important part of our human experience in certain instances where our boundaries have been violated, or some injustice has impacted us, for example. Anger becomes destructive (to ourselves and others) when it is expressed in dysregulated ways such as angry outbursts, abusive speech, violent acts, feeling overwhelmed and out of control, etc. Dysregulated anger was at one point a quiet, subtle regulated feeling, but was either overlooked or avoided and, just like any boiling pot of water that has been left unattended, it bubbles over and burns whatever it touches. In therapy, I help clients slow down their experience of anger so they can learn to give proper attention to the subtle nudges – the early bodily experiences of anger – rendering the escalation

When it comes to anger management, we know that there are underlying reasons that trigger our clients to feel frustrated. We work from different modalities that fit best with the client to help them find new ways of dealing with how they feel. We teach them new ways of coping and dealing with everyday stressors. We work collaboratively with the client so that they can feel in control of their emotions again.

Anger is an emotion that we all experience but it’s what we do with it that that can cause problems in our lives. We will provide psychoeducation and tools to help you better understand and manage your anger. It can sometimes be helpful to explore family of origin dynamics to identify what you have learned about anger and how to express it, replacing these internalized belief systems with more helpful ones.

Anger has costs psychologically, physiologically and in personal relationships. There are times when no amount of awareness or will, can calm ones Central Nervous System (CNS). When you find yourself reactive to a trigger, and the limbic system of your brain is fired up making anger seem to come out of nowhere, it is difficult to use reason. By utilizing tools of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Neurofeedback(NFB) or EMDR, I can assist your body and brain to learn to calm the CNS, allowing you to think first, act second.

We feel anger because we feel that something is not fair, something is not working out the way we thought it should, our boundaries have been crossed, or we feel we have been treated badly, or missed out. Anger can be frustrating if you don't know how to address the underlying issue. I specialize in helping those whose anger is related to social anxiety, isolation, bullying, harassment or lack of important social skills.

Working with anger involves understanding the nature of where your anger comes from, what perpetuates it, as well as what subsides it. Working with me for anger management involves emotional regulation training, relaxation practices, exercising forgiveness and other behavioural strategies. I have found success in helping people reduce their anger by helping identify, manage, and prevent intense anger episodes using the above mentioned strategies.

What has anger accomplished for you? Anger can be a devastating emotion, that if not managed can cause problems in your life. By working with me, we can work together to help manage and better understand why you get angry. I can help you understand that anger is not the first emotion that we feel, but it is usually the first emotion people see. I can help you better understand and communicate your underlying feelings that lead to anger. It is important what you do with anger that counts. It is important to understand that you can use your anger in a constructive and positive manner to help you get what you want in your life. Call now to see how I can help you create a more fulfilling life.

Anger can be misunderstood and therefore experienced as one of the scariest emotions to work with or experience. In our work together we will learn what is underneath your anger, and the function of these emotions in order to support you in learning to unlock more supportive ways of experiencing your emotions and heal from past hurts and therefore heal your relationships.

Frustration, irritation, and anger are normal human responses. We often feel angry when our goals are thwarted or when we perceive others are taking advantage of us. Anger is a problem when it is experienced to frequently, too intensely. You will be able to recognize your anger and understand how thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions are precipitating or perpetuating the anger response. You will learn coping strategies to manage your anger response appropriately.

There are many approaches to anger management but many of these don't work when you're angry! Being logical about the feeling or trying not to express the feeling rarely works! There are legitimate reasons for anger and the underlying cause must be understood if we are going to manage this complicated emotion. It may be coming up to protect us or to mask something even more difficult. You may notice that anger comes up in certain contexts and perhaps with certain people. If you are willing to do some hard work and face some difficult truths, understanding your anger can turn your life around. When we learn from anger you may be amazed how much better your life can work and feel.