Anger Management and Counselling in Abbotsford, BC.

Anger can be understood as a secondary emotion. This means that oftentimes, there is another emotion, such as sadness or fear underlying our anger. Anger can feel strong and uncomfortable for many and my hope is that through our work together, clients can learn to regulate their anger so it doesn't feel as consuming in their life. I believe that whatever is under our anger is still important to express and by learning regulation, we can achieve this and ultimately be responsive rather than reactive. We will do this by identifying triggers and building coping strategies as well as connecting with underlying emotions that can bring further awareness and healing.

Olivia is skilled in helping clients work through anger issues, guiding them to understand the underlying causes and triggers behind their emotions. She uses a cognitive behavioural approach to help clients manage their anger in the immediate moment, offering practical strategies to respond constructively. Olivia collaborates with clients to identify support networks that can provide ongoing care. Her compassionate and non-judgmental approach fosters self-awareness and empowers clients to channel their anger in healthier ways, promoting personal growth and stronger relationships. Through her guidance, clients develop tools to manage their emotions and build a foundation for lasting change.

Anger can feel all-consuming, scary, and "bad" for a lot of people. When I address anger with clients, we work on developing a new relationship with this powerful emotion so that the anger is understood, experienced and expressed in helpful ways. Working through anger with clients often leads to developing greater skills in assertiveness and communication.

I offer counselling for anger management to help clients manage difficult situations. The treatment process is rooted in CBT with a focus on identifying triggers and recognizing body sensations that indicate emotional dysregulation. Developing coping skills and strategies to manage anger and associated emotions can improve conflict resolution, communication, and problem solving abilities while showing individuals how to express emotions such as anger in a healthy way.

During individual counselling sessions, the therapist provides a safe and supportive environment for the individual to talk about their concerns and challenges. The therapist may use a variety of therapeutic techniques to help the individual gain insight into their thoughts and emotions, develop coping skills, and work towards positive change and addressing anger management

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” Ambrose Bierce Anger is often an intense emotional response that can negatively affect people’s lives. Many people struggle to manage and express their anger effectively due to often intense and overwhelming feelings. Families, work, friendships and one’s personal well-being can be destroyed unintentionally along the way. Although we cannot control anger provoking situations, we can learn step by step techniques for successfully and efficiently managing them. Through counselling we will work to access the issues provoking anger and outbursts, and develop tools to identify and effectively manage emotional triggers. When needed, we will also work with families and...(view profile to read more)

It sucks to be angry and loose control of our emotions. Anger can have a devastating impact on the people we love the most. I will support you in addressing the emotions, trauma and pain underneath anger and learn to identify your triggers and patterns. I will teach you tools to address your stress and help you learn to better deal with your emotions. Learning to communicate our needs in a way that will be received is also a part of how I address anger issues.

When anger gets the best of us, we can say and/or do things that we later wish we could change or take back. Anger is an instinctive universal emotion, one in which we all have, but not all expressions of anger have to be hurt. In fact, anger works as a great informant and can motivate us to take action to improve our own lives and the lives of people that we care about.

I have successfully helped many clients over the years with anger management. The reality is we all have anger that sometimes becomes just too much to contain! This obviously could quickly cause us serious ramifications! If you ever get to that point, anger management can be incredibly helpful in many ways. We all have anger but sometimes it increases in intensity which can result in very serious ramifications! Always remember it is very treatable.

I work with the client to obtain a history of how difficult situations were handled in their family, with their peers, with their professional and personal relationships. I have several techniques that I teach to the client to help them through an emotionally charged time. Understanding where their beliefs came from is a major step towards changing how they respond to situations. Anger is an okay emotion; it is how we respond to it that matters.

Anger is often a reaction to something deeper. It can be experienced as a quick event, from nothing to an explosion, but there is something valuable to understand between these two extremes. In working with anger, I focus on this in between by helping to connect the mind to the body’s experience and what we may notice is going on before anger arises. By building an awareness of what is going on, we can build better ways to understand the reasons behind the response and to intervene in more helpful ways.

Do you ever feel so mad that you want to scream or explode? Typically, underneath the emotion of anger is hurt. If we can access the hurt and pain beneath anger, oftentimes, we can uncover what threat anger is trying to protect us from. However, I would like to acknowledge that gender plays a big part in the ability to express anger, as does current circumstances (stress, powerlessness), past history (trauma, abuse), and ineffective learned behaviours. What is key here is that anger is a core emotion, it is healthy to feel and to get to know it. It's just a matter of how you express it towards yourself and others when problems start to arise.