Addiction Therapists in Sooke, BC.

I see people who want to stop or slow down their porn use. Porn is so easy to find these days, and many people have been exposed to graphic images at an early age. Some people use porn as a routine shortcut to excitement. But it can backfire: they can start having trouble getting excited without porn. Or they really don’t want anyone to find out. Porn is the quick solution that doesn’t solve that much, and sometimes it creates longer term problems. Relationships can suffer, and so can your self-respect. Sometimes porn use hides other trouble in your life. Together we identify what is going on and what you can do to change – so you can connect better with others and with yourself.

Addictions are complicated and complex. They involve so many aspects of our live, our psyche and our soul. They can take the form of substances, behaviours or even ways of thinking and beliefs. From my perspective, they involve an inability to be in the moment, to be present, as we are, in all of our discomfort. Our work on addictions will likewise be complex and involve every aspect of your experience. We will find ways to mitigate the effects i.e. harm reduction. We will also try to get underneath what might have caused the addiction originally. We will work toward a larger, more expanded, more free perspective of seeing yourself.

Understanding what our addiction means, how it takes control over our behaviour and choices in life is an early step in recovery. You may be filled with pain and self-hatred, wanting escape, and that drives us into addiction. The need for relief, however brief, destroys lives. Together we can understand and heal your trauma. You have to want change more than anything, but you can do it. Cognitive Processing Therapy can help you heal from your trauma and get on the sober path.

There are many kinds of addictions including substance, sexual, internet, porn, shopping, shoplifting, some phobias and gambling. Specialized addictions counseling and medical intervention are advised where appropriate. Janice Graham will support you by helping you understand why you turn to addictive behaviours. You will identify the needs you are trying to meet and plan ways to resolve these needs and meet them in ways that do not destroy yourself and your relationships or involve you with the law. The place of 12 step programs and other support groups will be reviewed. My treatment approach is compassionate and accepting.

I am guided by your willingness to make a change, your believe in your ability to make that change, and the priority that making this change has in your life. An addiction has usually such a strong grip on a person, who is often also alone and has tried many times before; that extraordinary patience, perseverance, and continued refocusing is needed. At the same time, the many people that succeed every day after having tried many times, are proof that it can be done. My focus is to support your willingness, ability, and priority within a structured plan of carefully chosen activities that are realistic and meaningful.

What emotions are your addiction trying to mask? What are you escaping from? Is your addiction costing you your relationship, your family, your work? Your addiction or dependency, is serving a purpose. Let’s explore, understand and uncover what that purpose is and what the core issues are. It’s time to lead a healthier and more intentional life.

I provide support for those considering or determined to reduce or eliminate substances, problem gambling, or other compulsion. Whether the goal is cutting out the addictive behaviour or minimizing its impact, I work through motivational interviewing to help people access addiction treatment if needed. If treatment is not needed, I target the underlying problem such as anxiety, depression, or family conflict. So if you have a family member who requires assessment and direction, or you yourself need to know that you addiction is in good hands while you focus on another problem, I can help.

“It was a long and heavy day and I just need to break the edge.” “I communicate better after few drinks” “I can’t fall asleep if I don’t have my…” When a substance becomes a “priority”, or becomes overused, it begins to creep into and destroy an individual’s health, family, relationship and even work. The question becomes "Do I have control over it or does it have control over me?". Often substances are used as coping mechanism without realizing that it often creates even more anxiety and depression, leaving a person feeling more stress and low down the road. Feeling anxious without a "quick fix" or a “temporary Band-Aid” is a strong indicator that a person is or has lost control with the desired substance. In counselling, we work to support...(view profile to read more)

I am honoured that you are interested in my services and I would like to tell you a little bit about myself. I have been described as slightly non-conventional in the counselling world, which suits me perfectly, and also tends to suit youth who are trying to stand up to the force of the problems in their life. I am very comfortable working with this population, and I feel fortunate that I can connect with teens the way I do, conventionally or in a way that makes sense to them.

Often in life, stress, responsibility and unhappiness can lead to managing/medicating with a variety of substances; marijuana, alcohol, gambling, sex, internet, drugs, ect. This can lead to an unbalance in the usage of these substances, create a significant strain and negative affect on relationships, family, work and one self. We will work to uncover the motivating force that has driven to substance abuse and help to regain control. Through this work we will strive to regain a healthy and balanced life, free of addiction or dependency.

The common cause of most addiction is shame- based thinking and behaviour. Once we can identify and understand the source of our cravings or compulsions, then we can work to change this into more positive choices. In this work I challlenge clients to examine their own thinking and needs that underlie their addictive process. Then they can seek to fulfill these needs in more productive ways.

Working through addiction can be a raw and difficult process, that often reveals the pain that the addiction was helping to disguise. My approach to treating addiction applies cognitive awareness and mindfulness strategies to managing and reducing addictive tendencies and impulses. Addiction tends to thrive in isolation, so having a guide to help anticipate the struggle of addiction, identify and exercise strategies that are clinically effective in relief of addiction, and trauma.

Dr. Sloat treats addiction using non-12 Step methods (including CBT), and while she welcomes people struggling with any stage of addiction, she specializes in working with those who are post-rehabilitation. It is important to understand why one becomes addicted in the first place, and it's important to establish new and healthy patterns that edge out the addictive ones such that relapse is less likely. During treatment Dr. Sloat touches upon the actual addictions, but mostly she focuses on the underlying reasons and factors that perpetuate them. If left untreated, addiction becomes "hard-wired" in, and Dr. Sloat helps people "re-wire" their lives.

I am adept at support clients in finding the root of their addiction whether it be trauma or challenges with emotional regulation. Addictive behaviour always makes sense. Unfortunately, there is still so much shame, judgement and misunderstanding when it comes to addiction. I will help you make sense of your addictive behaviour and achieve freedom.