Anger Management and Counselling in Fort Saskatchewan, AB.

Anger is a normal emotion and has a place in a health life. However people often find that their anger feels out of control. Learning to manage all your emotions, including your anger, is a skill that you can learn at any age. If you are feeling like your anger is creating problems in your life and relationships contact me. We can discuss how you can learn the skills to manage your anger rather than let your anger manage you.

Many of us have not been taught the tools and strategies that are needed to manage anger in a healthy and appropriate manner. While anger is a natural emotion, which can serve as a helpful signal that something is "just not right," it is often handled in a poor manner. I help people to see the maladaptive patterns and strategies they have been using to express their anger, and then replace these with healthier ones. We also work to unload built up frustration, resentment, and hurt, which often reaches a "breaking point" and needs to be resolved so that it does not come out as uncontrolled anger. By doing this, clients can reach a more peaceful place, and will come to see anger in a new way.

I believe that anger is an emotion like any other emotion, joy, sadness, etc. Anger should not be managed; it should be felt and experience. If we give ourselves permission to be angry and to feel the underlying emotions that causes the anger, we are less likely to move into reactive states of anger. My approach to anger would be to "feel it" and be angry so that it does not have to be a scary emotion that has to be managed.

Managing anger means managing your need to have things your way even if your way seems reasonable to you. It means questioning your sense of entitlement to having your way. Anger can be a strong communication to others that what one is angry about really matters. As an initial response it can be a powerful impetus to change but unless one takes some kind of action following the anger it will only serve to reinforce a sense of powerlessness. Anger can be a way to impose ones will. Sometimes people learn that this works in the short term but in the long term it never really does.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

It may look like anger or anger outbursts or aggressive behavior. However, exploring what is underneath your anger can be extremely helpful in understanding where your anger comes from. Is it shame, sadness, guilt or something else? In working with anger, it is important to know that it is okay to express anger in a healthy way without harming yourself and others.

Anger can be a healthy reaction to upsetting events, but when expressed aggressively it is very destructive. You can learn how to calm your anger and channel it in a healthy way. Anxiety is often a contributor to angry outbursts. When you are tense, worried, insecure and perfectionistic anger easily surfaces. Addressing the underlying causes of anger enables you to disengage from destructive patterns and improve your relationships.

When we can learn to investigate anger, build acceptance and tolerance for uncomfortable feelings, and find ways to soothe ourselves, we can manage anger in ways that are supportive of our relationships and supportive of ourselves. Learning anger management can involve building skills in multiple areas including communication, needs identification, distress tolerance, and/or emotional regulation.

Do you find yourself more irritable than you used to be? Or small things seem to set you off and you just can't seem to stop yourself from snapping? First of all, it's admirable of you to stop and take notice of this, and to desire to better this part of yourself. Anger is not wrong in itself, and if we can take a closer look at what is happening in your life and thoughts, I can get you the help you need to manage this emotion and how it's being expressed. Go ahead and take that first step-- you'll see all kinds of benefits in your relationships and in your health! Give me a call and let's start working on this together.

My approach to anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that comes with it. We can work together to identify triggers, recognize your triggers, manage your emotions, and feel calmer by mindfully approaching your anger so that you not only regulate your emotions but also listen to your own intense emotions and then work on rewiring your brain to peace. I use Interpersonal Neurobiology to help you understand the way your brain works so that you can control your anger instead of your anger takes control of your life

Anger is a natural emotional response that occurs when something that we value gets squashed or stepped on by the world around us. You may be experiencing a great deal of anger without fully understanding the thing that you value that is being squashed. I will work with you to discover understanding of your anger and to uncover the ways in which anger has become problematic in your life. I will walk with you on the path to overcoming the destructive impact of anger, and to resolve the situations which lead to unhelpful anger.

Anger management problems emerge from a social system where both genders are taught that expression of anger is inappropriate. Anger is one of seven basic human emotions and is in no way dangerous, unfeminine, or taboo. Explosive anger typically emerges when people attempt to keep their anger from others, holding it inside until they can no longer contain it. My approach is to model and practice graded expression of anger, and to help people modify the point(s) of view from which anger is seen to emerge.

I will use an integrative approach, tailored to suit your needs, experiences, and personal circumstances, in order to deal with you anger on a positive way. Together we will find and employ the most appropriate techniques that will help you menage your anger and tame your tamper. By doing so, your anger will again become just a normal, healthy, human emotion; not a problem.